I find myself in a dilemma. There is a beginner tanguero whom I happen to be quite attracted to. But so long ago I swore to myself never to date a tango dancer ever again.
I don't have the temperament to be able to see my significant other in the arms of another quite so passionately and not become passionately irritated. When I was younger I was a lot more open minded and highly accepting. Now as I'm getting older, it'll be over my dead body. And if my significant other is okay with me passionately in the arms of another, then he won't be my significant other for long.
While I understand many people go through these things and discover for themselves who they actually are, I know myself. It's a personal preference, a personal character makeup. I'm a hot-blooded woman. I choose to be with hot-blooded men.
And so... this beginning with this beginner tanguero... it's gotten me in all sorts of knots. What am I going to do? I'll tell you right from the get-go: We're going to torture ourselves into oblivion.
It's complicated.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
the Tango Curse
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... what if you suddenly feel to be fatefully attracted to a beginner tanguero and your Mr. Perfect is sitting beside you?
... what if your Mr. Perfect is dancing with the best and hottest woman at milonga and you KNOW how passionate the dance can be?
isn't it a torture too? :-)
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Hm... that is complicated, if I where you I would give your feelings time, talk to the guy a little here and there but don't push your relationship, don't make it seem to big, don't rush into anything BUT on the other hand, hey maybe this is "the Guy" give him a little bit of a chance. If you two really do fall in love then you can express your feelings that you really need to dance with him and him alone, and if he loves you, he'll understand! don't get in a relationship that won't work, test the waters. If there's sharks, don't swim.
That's my basic advice, don't tango but would like to learn, looks awsome.
This tango maestro couple I know in Buenos Aires doesn't socially dance with anyone else. It's odd for tango teachers not to dance with many others. The only exception they make is with their students.
don´t go with a newer tanguero, that´s because he or she never will be able to understand you. Maybe he/she dances not for the music but other thing. Then when time goes by, you´ll dance less because your dance-love partner doesnt want to recognise that never will dance as you do.
Dance tango it´s demanding, it´s a life experience that lasts as long as life is. I´ve seen great dancers that have forgotten dancing tango because their couples didn´t understand that close embrace with others, that others do better dancing tango with your fiancé.
Who dances poor has the fear about lossing the couple wich dances great. This happens in the tango-territory, so if the newer quickly doesn´t grow as good dancer the only way to get the couple is...going far away from tango.
Marie
is dancing with someone you are attracted to, but will never have, more intense than dancing with someone you are not attracted to?
excellent blog!!!!
I olso highly recommend this milonga description:
http://blogs.lanacion.com.ar/sexo/de-milonga/sexo-en-la-milonga/
Bye Bye from Buenos Aires
For me the embrace, the sensuality, the contact is about the Tango and not about a new relationship.
After dancing tango for 4-5 years, I met Mr. Beginner 10 years ago. He was perfect for me except for the dancing level incompatibility. Now, we've been married for 6 years and he dances divinely ...after I stopped micromanaging his dancing curriculum...:)
Funny.. I wouldn't want to date anyone that DIDN'T dance tango considering how important it is in my life. Do what your heart is telling you, though, don't let your brain overanalyze things.
Hola!
I dance tango for over 2 years now and love it more everyday. Recently I asked a girl to be my girlfriend and we've been together for a couple of months. She is my favorite dancer. I love doing everything with her and I feel it only natural to share tango. I do get a tiny bit jealous eveery now and then but I think by dancing with others we'll both be able to improve. At the end of the dance it's ok because she's going back to my table and at the end of the night we are leaving together. I think it's ok for her to be in somebody else's arms for a bit I'll feel ok knowing that I have her heart in my hands.
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I see this too many times on the dance floor. The eyes reveal too much to the concerning observer.
I have been dancing for several years but only recently argentine tango. I have danced with many experienced women (not necessarily tango) and i have become accustomed to the 'scene' where many practise the follow thru' of the dance which is a good romp in bed.
My advice is why complicate matters, just become a tango whore and give yourself to those leaders who can really show you how to tango!
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